When you do not include the “I” in your human rights efforts, this is why it hurts me and other people born intersex:

Mx. Anunnaki Ray

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I am not transgender.  I was born intersex.  

Guess what?  

Almost everything that can happen to a gay person, lesbian, transgender person, or gender nonconforming queer person, has happened to me.    I now know I am not alone.  These things happen to other people born intersex too.  So far, due to being born intersex these Sixteen Human Rights and Civil Rights Violations  have happened to me.  I am forty-eight years old and almost did not make it out alive:

  1. At the age of three and four, I went through therapy to be taught I was a girl.   I was assigned female at birth.  I am not female.
  2. Although I am stable now, I have attempted suicide three times and almost four.
  3. One of those attempts happened before the age of eighteen years old; at the tender age of sixteen years old.
  4. Was kept out of locker…

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Why was I diagnosed with GENDER DYSPHORIA?

Awesome

Mx. Anunnaki Ray

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As a person born intersex, October, 2014, I desperately needed to reclaim my true gender.  It was for health, mental and spiritual reasons.  It had become life or death for me at this point.  To get help, I had to seek out a transgender doctor, because no other doctor would go against my assigned gender at birth.  Even after sharing my history of having intersex traits (what the medical world often calls a disorder of sexual development or DSD), it made no difference.  Most, where I live consider the change of one’s gender “taboo medicine”.  Let me share about the illusion of “normal” when the majority refers to my gender and compares me to this binary standard of  typical female or typical male.

To get insurance to cover my treatment, and to get a reproductive endocrinologist to help me, I was told I had to first go through…

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the end of gay and straight

You nailed it here Mo

Summer Thunder

I have really got to the end of this whole sexual identity thing. I no longer see what it has to do with humanity, love or human reality, emotional or sexual.

I think it’s very true that most people have a marked need for partners of one sex or the other, and that need means that in many people as a generality in their life, will be overwhelmingly heterosexual or homosexual, as a rule. But people can have exceptions too, and I have come to believe that Tammo de Jongh was right when he said that people are essentially bisexual. Except that we don’t yet have an understanding of that, because we think in categories, not real descriptions, so we imagine “bisexual” is a box someone ticks, and you then put them in that box, but that’s not how anyone is. If everyone is bisexual, it includes all the…

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The Ripple Effect

Trans Swindon

The Ripple Effect

When a pebble is dropped in still water the ripples expand across the surface growing larger and larger. Today I am going to ask each of us, who feels able to, to become a little pebble.

Just before my surgery Janey and I discussed the high rate of suicide within the transgender community with Sim Courtie on BBC Radio Wiltshire. The latest statistics show 48% of transgender people attempt suicide before the age of 25. This compares to a figure of 23% among the general population in the same age range.

There are ways we can significantly reduce this figure. In fact, we can almost eradicate it. Statistics have proven that 93% of transgender suicide attempts could be avoided if the transgender individual felt safe, accepted and supported by their family and friends. Teenage years are problematic and stressful at the best of times, but when an individual is faced…

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I am an Intersex Person. I never felt like a Cis Gender Person and I Relate to Some Transgender Men

A moving reflection – hope you don’t mind me sharing

Mx. Anunnaki Ray

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I am a person born with intersex traits, that was assumed to be female, and raised female.  A Cis Gender person identifies as the gender they are assigned to at birth.  I do not, nor have I ever felt Cis Gender, even when I appeared female.  All the therapy and surgery in the world could never achieve that with me, however, there are some intersex people who do identify as being Cis Gender. Each of us are so different.

I know many intersex people who were assigned the wrong gender like I was.  I have never felt 100% male or female; although I definitely identify with being male, far more than female.  Please note, I do not speak for other intersex people.  I only share my experience, strength and hope.

Until I honored my true gender, that of being a Non-binary, Gender Fluid…

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IOTD …. Images of the day, #391 …. “Day of Remembrance”!!

It Is What It Is

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~~November 20, 2015~~

DAY OF REMEMBRANCE

Transgender Day of Remembrance 2015

Those We’ve Lost

At least 81 transgender people were murdered worldwide this year — and those are just the victims whose deaths were reported. 

BY SUNNIVIE BRYDUM
NOVEMBER 20 2015

Today marks the 16th annual Transgender Day of Rememberance, after the first event was organized by Gwendolyn Ann Smith in Allston, Mass., to memorialize Rita Hester — a trans woman of color killed in 1998.

Every year since, growing numbers of trans people and advocates worldwide take a moment to pause and remember the countless lives lost around the globe to transphobic violence.

The somber occasion serves as a memorial event in which trans people and allies can mourn their dead, celebrate the lives they lived and as a popular hashtag in the wake of unabated anti-trans violence proclaims, #SayHerName.

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Swindon Says No to Discrimination

Trans Swindon

No Discrimination

Saturday 22 August was our official launch night at the Mail Coach. All of us had a great time and were in high spirits. Both staff and customers had been friendly and welcoming. Earlier in the day group members had been asked why the group was needed. The following is a case in point.

This was a night that the ghastly spectre of discrimination should not have raised its ugly head. However an Incident occurred at the Brunel North Car Park. For two of our members at least it made for an unpleasant end to a wonderful night.

A group member needed help to release her car from the car park. After a phone call a guy turned up and announced he could only take cash. The car owner duly went to the nearest cash point to get the money. During her absence two other members of the group were…

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