What being transgender after 50 looks like

50 is just around the corner for me, this is truly inspiring

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There’s something really powerful about portraits, especially when the subject is staring right back at you.

And even more so when that subject is “rarely visualized,” to use the words of photographer Jess T. Dugan. Starting in the fall of 2013, Dugan traveled the country taking photos of a group of people she says deserve to be seen more often: transgender and gender variant people over the age of 50.

Dugan’s work—a collaboration with Vanessa Fabbre, a scholar and professor of social work at Washington University in St. Louis—comes as older trans people are just barely beginning to break through into mainstream culture. Even though over half of the trans population in the U.S. is over the age of 50, it wasn’t until last month that Jeffrey Tambor, 70, won a Golden Globe for playing a father transitioning of as a woman in the Amazon series “Transparent.”

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Sense of Taste

Sense of taste

One of the big changes I have noticed in recent weeks is taste and appetite. My sweet tooth has gone and been replaced by savoury. However I do not have much of an appetite anymore and food is no longer a comfort thing.

It could be said this is all a great bonus as I am on a weight loss mission. The reality is I have to go with the flow a bit as I am learning my new likes and dislikes but yes the excess weight is still coming off at a steady rate.

My treat has changed from a sweet treat to a cheeseburger now and then, as I was never that keen on burgers and cheese that in itself says a lot. I still do not use fast food shops but make my own from venison.

I have to change a lot of my recipes as I am picking up on the sweetness that occurs naturally in food. Only yesterday I made pasta with a Bolognese sauce and just could not eat it as to me it tasted very sweet. Another recipe I need to experiment with to make it right.

This is one of those changes I was not expecting and it sure does not appear on any lists from the medics. I enjoy exploring cooking so it is all good fun but I can see it would be problematic for others.

 

 

 

 

Vocal Mutation

Vocal Mutation

Well it happened and I did not actually notice. It took a couple of friends to tell me my voice had dropped to a deep growl. That was a couple of weeks ago. Now I am paying attention of course.

I am not being misgendered on the phone anymore. In fact there is not even a question on the other end of the line when they ask for Mr and I answer accordingly. As a poet I read out loud a fair bit so hearing my own voice change was never going to be a guarantee as I hear it day in day out. Listening to some of the recordings I make of course I can now hear it.

As I have never had a high-pitch voice I was not expecting a dramatic change nor was I expecting it yet.  At the beginning of January I had a raspy sore throat and my voice was cracking up and down a lot but of course I thought it was the sore throat causing it. The throat has healed and I am left with what my friend calls a growl, it does not crack at all.

I like how it sounds right now, it is a definite improvement on the non-descript husky tone of old that was neither one thing nor the other. It feels comfortable and I can live with it.

 

 

© JG Farmer 2015

One Man’s Sonnet

The Boy Poet

Inside the night this darkness surrounds me
As black as pits of hell but I am free
And I thank my gods who have made me strong
So I may walk the path into the night
Alone, without the pain of fear or fright
In this dun world I can see my way ahead
Despite the cruel words that one voice said
Of all the ways in which my life was wrong
I cry no more nor shed a worthless tear
For someone’s dream to wreathe my heart in fear
Each step I feel my pace increase its span
And when the way may seem to be too long
Then I must walk the walk and be a man
And fill my heart with a different song.

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Native Americans talk gender identity at a ‘two-spirit’ powwow

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San Francisco’s Cow Palace has hosted livestock expositions, Rolling Stones concerts, and a U.S. heavyweight championship.

But this Saturday, it was home to something really special: the nation’s only Native American powwow for “two-spirited” tribe members that’s open to the public.

Two-spirited people don’t all define themselves in the same way. Many say they embody both male and female characteristics, and that such a role was recognized and honored by their tribes before colonization. Others might identify as gay when they’re around outsiders.

At the Cow Palace, they came together seeking community, and to raise awareness of some of the issues that LGBT people face on reservations, like hate crimes and high rates of suicide.

The term “two-spirit” is a relatively modern term but the concept is not. And the concept of a more complicated gender system has become fairly common in the mainstream: Half of all Millennials believe that…

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To start the day …. Strong Message: “Break Free”!!

It Is What It Is

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~~February 10, 2015~~ 

Powerful …. just for one minute, put yourself in this human being’s shoes!!

(Please, watch this video with the sensibility it’s intended to have. No intention to offend).

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Ruby Rose: ‘I used to pray to God that I wouldn’t get breasts’

The Australian model, DJ and television personality opens up about her struggle with gender identity depicted in her new video

Everybody has a crush on Ruby Rose. Her heart-shaped jaw and piercing eyes first caught the attention of modeling agents when she was a child, and by her teens she was known as the cool tattooed girl on Australian MTV (her audition process required her to pound shots of beer and make out with strangers in the street).

And being gay was not much of a problem for mainstream television. While accepting an award for Favorite Female Personality in 2009, Rose impulsively blurted a question…

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Facts and Fables…Fighting PTSD

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Before you assume, learn the facts_ Before you judge, understand why_ Before you hurt someone, feel_ Before you Speak, think_Like with every mental problem or disorder, there are a lot of fables and mythsabout PTSD. That’s not that strange, people can’t see it or they don’t understand it, but it can be very frustrating to those of us who suffer from it.

So, let’s set some things straight today! 🙂

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Fable 1

Only veterans can get PTSD.

Nope. Anyone who suffers from a traumatic experience can get PTSD.

(Sexual) abuse, the sudden death of a loved one, domestic violence, serious injury, witnessing or going through a terrifying event and more are all causes for PTSD.

Fable 2

Everyone who experiences a life-threatening event will develop PTSD.

Although it’s true that a lot of people have symptoms of PTSD after a life-threatening event, they can reduce after a couple of months. But, only when you still have the symptoms of PTSD 10 months after the event, you might develop PTSD. There…

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