Pause for Thought

I was out when a buff envelope marked ‘Private and Confidential’ hit my doormat. I am not living stealth so everyone in the house knew what it was as soon as they saw the word Exeter in huge letters so hardly private and confidential really. Alongside it a discreet white envelope containing legal documents also marked ‘Private and Confidential’ then addressed FAO Mr c/o Miss – how in the hell is that private and confidential? Again everyone in the house knew what it would be. Of course I am not that bothered as everyone knows who I am and what is going on and the past person who doesn’t live in me anymore.

The buff envelope had my GIC appointment in, the professional side of transition starts on 4 April. I can’t help but wonder if they picked up on the vibes of me calling Transhealth as I am seriously considering using a private GIC. However Doc M has come up with another option.

This second option is to go to the first appointment in Exeter so the process is started then try for a transfer to Charing Cross in London and if that is a no go then turn to private care as truthfully Exeter is prohibitive on travel, lost income from time off work and accommodation costs to the point the savings I make going private would pay for the first surgery or at least most of it.

The discreet white envelope was my deed poll documents – yeah I know I can do it for nothing but I need it official so paying a few pounds is ok. As of now I am Mr and the name is Jeremy. Now just got to get the officialdom of banks, HMRC, Passport etc updated – that includes the NHS itself. No more the old name from the reception staff and they can just get over it. Now as long as the red tape brigade don’t muff it up all should be plain sailing – I know we are talking administrators and it will get muffed up as that is what they do best. Anyway envelopes with certified copies of the deed poll are posted in buff envelopes to all that need to know. Let the muffing up begin!

As always my love and thanks to all of you who comment and send me messages, especially over the last few weeks as they have helped me keep a sense of up when I was feeling really down.

Love and light

Jeremy Gwion Farmer (Mr)


5 thoughts on “Pause for Thought

  1. awesome bro! from my experience with name changes the passport and the NHS card will probably take the longest, but the rest goes through super quick, and the former are not that bad. Keep your docs and birth cert together, as you need the evidence of the joined up trail just in case (though once things like passport are changed, it’s going to be on your records). But in law, from now, there is only a Mr JG Farmer 🙂 Congratulations!

    • Thank you very much Bro. NHS are likely to be the real problem as they are pushing for a gender recognition cert which I don’t actually have to provide as legally we can use any title we choose.

      • what complete asses! you’d think they would be more up to speed given their jobs. Does deed poll include title? I can’t remember. If it does, how can they possible request anything else? Dinosaurs

        • Because they are administrators and like making life difficult – gives the boring pen-pushers something to do. Technically no unless you declare it deed poll does not include title BUT you have to declare it at the time of name change and not later so because I am going for GRC I have to declare as Mr. ‘Tis all bureaucratic hogwash

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