Hi everyone, the resident gender-bender of the blogosphere here. Seriously, had some idiot yell that at me in town this week as if I was going to even find that offensive. As always I responded with a ‘yes and what is special about you?’ Come off it I have used every derogatory term for gay and transgender there is at myself, it really is not going to upset me folks. We live in a world of diversity and it is that diversity that makes the world so wonderful. And I so want that sweatie I have used to illustrate this post!
So what of the term ‘gender-bender’? I really do not see it as offensive apart from it being slightly, ever-so inaccurate. Gender in itself cannot be bent. I see it as bending the rules in a system, the system being the gender binary which is so flawed it does not need bending it needs completely smashing into smithereens. Therefore gender-buster would be more accurate and if it means breaking the old dogmatic system that is so deeply integrated into our thinking and being then I am proud to be so.
As to name calling when someone is different from the social expectations, it is all just a little bit sad really. In the adult world we are able to make our own decisions without the approval of anyone else being wanted or necessary. I am going to change gender whatever happens so anyone not approving has two choices shut up or pack up and I do not care much either way which they do.
On to better things, Doc M had my blood work results and I am now on Metformin for my diabetes which I suppose after 25 years diet-controlled I cannot complain about. It is one little tablet a day taking my daily shaker of pills to 12 – and I thought it was the old bones rattling away. Cholesterol was lower than I thought it would be and with the changes I have made in my diet so I shift the extra weight it should drop a bit lower.
Blood pressure is still a bit high but it has dropped a fair bit from August/September, just need to keep stress free the Doc says – yeah she knows that is not likely in the next millennium but I know I do need to chill out a bit more as my migraines are still regular even though they are less intense.
Next week is my appointment with the psyche to get my discharge so the referral can proceed. That means more waiting but at least it is progress. In some ways the waiting is good as it gives me time to make the needed changes to my life. Nothing will happen overnight with the NHS.
Again to all of you who send me messages I am really touched by your support and well wishes – thank you. You guys rock!
Love and light
© JG Farmer 2013